- Smell it. Always stop to smell the flowers. You must. Even if you have a small person catatonic with fear and loathing swinging from your Havaianas. In fact, it’s even more important then. You’ll look a bit mad; especially if you mis-aim your schnoz and air sniff. But madness and magic stop even the most apoplectic toddler in their steps and your brain and soul will smile.
- Wear it. That piece hanging in your wardrobe or stuffed to the back of the drawer that you think makes you look: like a mum, a bit podge, a tad mutton. If you love it you will ‘work it’ baby.
- Try it. Want to try the new Zumba class but fear you’ll look a tit? Keen to check out the new music group in town (‘Joey Jo Jo’s Musical Fantasia’) but nervous about going alone and being made to sing? Seen a job ad and kind of think you could do it, but worried they or your friends/family think you can’t? B@lls to doubt. You CAN do it. Dance, flounce, sing and interview. Even if you felt like a wally, no-one else thought you were. And there’s always mojito.
- Think it. Have a strong view on Brexit? Read an article in Grazia that got you thinking about the Calais Jungle and planning a mission? Read ‘Lean In’ by Sandberg and pumping with ideas? Good! If you’re thinking about anything other than what tog their sleeping bag is and whether you should get their nappy rash checked, you are Einstein in a frock.
- Be it. For the love of sanity and dignity, be yourself. It really doesn’t matter if, right now, that is a stressed/confused/angry mess, a loved-up lump of sugar, a power-crazed entrepreneur on a high or simply a sloppy doting mummy who is torn between watching the next ‘The Real Wives Of..” or steaming 17 batches of pea and pear purée. Just be whatever you can be in that moment and be honest. It is exhausting maintaining a facade and even more painful for your friends, family or colleagues trying to chisel it away to find you.
I’m not one for giving advice having been plagued with the usual … stress, insecurity and worry that we all have. But, even on my worst days, I always stop to sniff a flower … before I head home, fall over the cat, shout at the kids and reach for a nice cool glass! #doasisaynotasido